Todays question comes to Zambonesman from “Naked Crayon” in Massachusetts: “How does someone (me) get another person out of her head and consequently out of her life? The goal is to completely banish the other person from thought, night dreams, day dreams etc. Is there a way?
A good question Ms. Crayon, and of course, despite its difficulty, Zamboni has answer. I was once very much in love with a snake charming white witch from Bulgaria named Dracka who gave me as they say, “the old heave ho”, for a man much younger than me and also an alternate on the Bulgarian bobsled team.
For months I am pining for this woman, crying tears, thinking of her, trying to smell her in the wind and so forth. Then one day, after fasting for a week and spending 72 hours in a sweatlodge with the Winnebago Indians in Nebraska, I had a vision. In this vision, I see a coyote, but is actually Peter Coyote, the actor, and he told me this in his resonant voice:
“Zamboni my man, every rain drop has to do her work.”
? I replied confusedly as you can imagine. He explained.
“See man, the work of some people in this world is just to haunt you, to stay with you forever, even if you only saw them once on a train, or for one night, or three months, or ten years.”
“But Mr. Coyote”, I say to him, “how can I move on from this, get this witch out of my head?”
“You can’t, but like the raindrop, it doesn’t ever really disappear, it just evaporates into something else.”
The I remember the water cycle from Estonian school. Something about water becoming air, moisture…then water again? Arrows going this way and that. It is very foggy as I was most often in the head nuns office being beaten with a Birch branch for questioning the teachers.
Finally at the end of my vision, I asked, “so will I ever be free of this longing?”
And Coyote answered with a big toothy tricksterish grin, “you don’t want to be.” And with that -poof- he was gone. And I was just left with the sight of his chest covered with massive tattoo of a coyote.
So my friend and reader, sometimes the truth from Zamboni is not what you want to hear. You can never “get a person out of your head”, but you can transform that feeling into something else. Just listen to it closely.
Zambones has spoken. Now hit the word “comments” below and ask me the next question I may answer- thanks to You!
8 thoughts on ““How to Stop thinking About Someone””
Thanks Z-man. Just a thought- Your wisdom while true enough is based on happy thoughts of someone that left you behind. Someone that you didn’t want to lose- a deep “true love” perhaps.
However, I wonder if it is different if, as in my scenario, the person whom I wish to leave my head is NOT wanting to leave. She is very much a part of my world and yet I do not want her to be a part of my life.
So I am not left behind as you were….instead I am the one trying to break free…..and yet my thoughts are consumed with her. I guess maybe this is more of a forgive and forget issue. or I guess you could say transformation… in that I need to transform my disgust into apathy…?? Time heals all wounds…right?
Anyways best of luck to you in finding your new version of Dracka. May you use your infinite wisdom to choose wisely on your next witch.
you give me much to think about.
I have long known a saying regarding this. Perhaps I can clean it up…
“The best way to forget one person is to think of another.”
Mind share is not infinate.
you say in few words what zamboni says in many- bravo bro!
Another timely post. I like this – transforming it to something else. Thank you.
Thank you! -z
I’m still studying from you, while I’m trying to reach my goals. I beyond doubt love reading all that is written on your blog. Keep the stories coming. I loved it!